The Fixer

You know who you are.

Your the one who always feels responsible for everything that goes wrong.

Your the one who apologizes every time there is conflict in your relationships because you can’t stand someone being upset with you.

Your the one who feels guilt when other people have problems and feel obligated to find a solution. 

Your the one who is transparent with your feelings, shortcomings and challenges in hopes that someone will understand you and want to help you like you help others.

Your the one who feels anger when people you have helped or are helping, just don’t show appreciation and often have incredible expectations  of you. 

Your the one who can’t sleep at night because you have so much worry,while everyone else doesn’t  seem bothered by all of the things that aren’t fixed yet. 

Your the one who others walk away from and don’t seem to care about how things affect you and, in fact, blame all that went wrong on you. 

Your the one who ends up burnt out and often with an incredible need for fixing. 

Your the one who has sacrificed your own well being for the sake of others and wonder why God seems to have left you broken. 

 The fixer, made the mistake of working so hard for so long trying to fix others that she let herself fall apart. 

The fixer thought that loving God first and others second and yourself last was the path to joy but misunderstood that we are called to love others as ourselves, not above ourselves. 

The fixer finds himself not knowing who he is or what he wants because he has spent his life fixing others and neglecting himself. 

The fixer will come to a place where it can’t stay this way anymore. He has to stop and he has to find himself and fix his own life. 

That day will be the best day of her life. The day she realizes that she is really no good to anyone else until she knows, loves and cares for herself. That will be the day that the guilt dissipates, and true joy starts to come, the day that he will find the inner peace and well being that has eluded him all these years. 

If your a fixer in need of fixing, your not alone, trust me. It’s time to put yourself first and rebuild your own life, everyone else is gonna have to figure it out for themselves. That’s not cold or uncaring as you might think it is. It’s the best thing you can do for anyone in your life. If others love you, they will rejoice when you decide to take care of yourself. The likelihood is, there will be some, maybe many, who will be furious with you. They are used to you being the one who picks up the pieces. Those are the ones who need your decisive change the most. They need to start picking up there own pieces. You might lose some and estrange others but you will find yourself and save yourself from an empty broken future. 

WithLoveTG4/12/15